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If the pattern determines life, what determines the pattern?

From: 本站 Author: admin Posted: 2018-08-25 10:39:12 View: 35
I participated in the interview of the unit a few years ago. Many of the students who came to the school were freshmen from Qingbei, NPC to Beihang, and even some students from Fudan and Nanda came to the interview.

(1) Your ceiling is just the starting point of others

I participated in the interview of the unit a few years ago.

Many of the students who came to the school were freshmen from Qingbei, NPC to Beihang, and even some students from Fudan and Nanda came to the interview.

These students can enter these prestigious schools undergraduate, and they are basically the same level of peers in their peers.

Then, according to the urinary nature of our unit, most of the interviews, in addition to good grades, must be “student cadres”, “party members” and “good writing skills”... so the resumes are all very good young people, and the average age is probably It is twenty-two years old.

In this group of people who are already very good, there is still a more prominent one.

A Peking University young man, who was just under 20 years old, was either young or skipped at school.

The resume looks very handsome and handsome, and the results are also very good. Every year, the national scholarship, the core of the university, or the president of the student union, amateurs also engage in basketball team, drama or something. Probably it is the development of morality, intelligence, beauty and all-round development, so pay special attention to it.

When I was in the interview, the conversation, temperament, and answering questions were impeccable. The key was to be very calm and generous. I was very familiar with the appearance of the world. His performance left a very deep impression on everyone.

One of us HR whispered to me at the scene and said a very classic evaluation:

For the first time, he felt inferior to his own unit. He was afraid that he could not retain such a talented person. He should go directly to the Ministry of Foreign Affairs as a spokesperson.

HR is a slang. This person did not come to our unit at the end, because for young people like him, what he is pursuing is not simply "how high is the salary", "there is no Beijing hukou", "the work is stable and unstable" and so on...

What they want is that their abilities are fully utilized, and the ceiling is high enough to show their ambitions and realize the value of life.

After the recruitment, an executive who hosted the interview at the scene said a word:

From his opening, I knew that our unit was at most a starting point for him.

(2) The truth of society is that the better the family, the better

If I just keep on emphasizing how good the young people are, then it’s probably the same as “what kind of behavior you have seen the most local tycoons”, “to what extent is the rich second generation of your side”, except for showing off, no significance.

What I really want to say is a phenomenon that has become more and more obvious in recent years.

When I was at the scene, I used to boring the resumes of all the interviewed students and comparing their performances.

Most of the young people who graduated from these prestigious schools and performed well were found to have a good family. Many of their parents are provincial and municipal civil servants, state-owned enterprise managers, school teachers, and the director of the Public Security Bureau...

Of course, there are not many students. The hometown is in the countryside, and the parents are all farming. They belong to the “Golden Phoenix” which is especially hard to get into the prestigious school. Although all aspects are also excellent, in contrast, it is obvious that they are found in emotional intelligence. The temperament image and the gap in the horizon.

The young man with the most outstanding performance, the father is a provincial-level cadre, and the mother is a big bank accountant.

There were dozens of interviews on that day, and the sample was not too many, but the obvious trend was enough to shock people.

What is even more shocking is that when I entered the unit a few years ago, there were still many families in the same batch. However, in the past few years, the unit interviews recruited people, and the students with good family, good school and excellent students were more The more you come.

These people were all 90 years old, and they experienced the turmoil of the early 1980s. They were born after the society gradually stabilized in the 1990s.

When we were young, we all saw the story of Bill Gates starting from scratch, Einstein’s childhood idiots, but the bigger the more he discovered the cruel truth of the society - the richer the more often the more money, the more excellent the more often excellent.

Ma Yun’s son was at the University of California at Berkeley. Liu Chuanzhi’s daughter first graduated from Harvard to Goldman Sachs, and then took charge of it. Even Ren Zhengfei’s daughter can only be admitted to a specialist (about his daughter’s education, it’s hard to find out now, but if it’s early If you are concerned about Huawei, you should know it. Now it is also the CFO of Huawei. As for Wang Sicong...

(3) Poor and excellent college students are becoming less and less

The above phenomenon, I first shared it, and it was still in early 2016.

In the past few years, I didn't go to the scene every year to participate in the interview, but every time I went, as long as I went to flip the resume, I found that among the excellent college students who entered the interview, there were fewer and fewer people with poor family conditions, which was almost extinct.

I am reminded that there are still people on the Internet around 2010 who discuss "the cold door is hard to come out." In 2013, the People’s Daily reported that "the proportion of rural students in Peking University fell from 30% to 10%," but later, on this aspect. News and reports are getting less and less.

Now I know that there are fewer reports, not because there are fewer and fewer such things, but that it is obviously not news.

In 2017, Beijing’s college entrance examination champion Xiong Xuanang said in an interview that he was shocked:

“Children in rural areas are getting harder to get into a good school. You are like me. They belong to middle-class families (children), they are well-fed, parents are intellectuals, and they are born in a big city like Beijing. Therefore, enjoying this unique condition in educational resources is something that many foreign children or rural children can't fully enjoy. This kind of thing determines that when I study, I can actually take many shortcuts than them."

The current champion is this kind of thing. Generally speaking, it is the kind of good and powerful home.

After the birth of Liu Qiangdong from the countryside, he once donated a large sum of money to his alma mater.

Then found that the bursaries are no one.

Because there are too few "excellent poor college students", it is in line with the "difficulties" set by Liu Qiangdong.

This phenomenon of poor and excellent college students is becoming less and less, and more and more of these two years have been discussed as evidence of "level solidification."

But unfortunately, this is not the key to sharing today.

(4) Those who are superior in their family and very good, how will they perform after work?

In the past two years, my department and related departments have come in a lot of such outstanding young people.

As I said before, their families are getting better and better, their education is getting higher and higher, and their quality is outstanding.

I have witnessed their wonderful resumes and witnessed their seemingly inherent confidence in the interview.

Many people are very concerned about these young people who are superior in their families and who are very good in their own work. How do they perform after work?

Below, let me talk about the phenomenon I saw.

And many newcomers need a long time to adapt to the new environment. They are very calm and quick in their work, and they are doing things in an orderly manner.

For example, one of the boys, although working for a long time, is extremely assertive in doing things. If the work arrangement is unreasonable, it will be argued according to reason, and will not be silently endured; sometimes the work has made mistakes and will be generously recognized.

From the very beginning, he never made a fuss about things like house, car, girlfriend, etc. When he communicated with him, the most interesting things besides the food in all parts of the country were the various anecdotes in Beijing's political and business circles.

At the end of last year, I traveled with him to the field.

Very remote, we don't have a branch office there, and receiving anything is a problem.

After the results arrived, he arranged everything in order, and the plane was connected by bus, accommodation and meals, and the connection of the missions was particularly good.

When I was eating at night, I realized that one of his immediate family members was just a deputy in the city, so he provided help.

When I saw the unique calmness, generosity, and majesty of the middle-level real power leadership in his relatives, I suddenly understood why he had just joined the work, and he was a familiar and unpredictable look.

The reason why he has such excellent relatives is because their family also belongs to the upper middle class.

Compared with the battle I had when I first joined the work, I was cautious, and I was anxious and insomnia when I encountered problems. It was the first time that I felt a huge gap.

(5) Your pattern has been delineated from the moment of birth.

Now, we are talking more and more about a word, "pattern."

The so-called pattern is actually the height of the goal you are pursuing, the breadth of your vision, the depth of your thinking, and the calmness of your body.

We found that the pattern of a person largely determines the starting point and end point of his life, the upper and lower limits.

But I have even more discovered that the so-called "pattern" of a person has been largely delineated from the moment he was born, and the lower limit has been determined.

Just like the few excellent young people mentioned above.

The education that their families bring to them, and the constant guidance and help they have given them in their growth, have allowed them to stand on a higher starting point than others when they first entered the society.

Even in the face of the difficulties of the big day, the family and the network that the family has woven can bring them enough confidence.

After the death of Tao, a student of Wuhan Polytechnic, many people questioned why he was so embarrassed when faced with the oppressor's oppression. Why did he not think so when he was in trouble?

Yes, my heart is too small, my mood is too sensitive, and the pattern is too low. In fact, from another perspective, a mentor can manage your life for a lifetime?

But the people who say this do not know how much pressure a child of a poor family has to face on the road to schooling that the family expects.

Do not dare to slack off, dare not make mistakes, dare not rush, do not dare to go out, do not dare to regress, a carelessness is nothing. When they encounter problems, they not only have no family to help, but they are afraid to tell the family because they are afraid to put more pressure on the hard-working parents.

They don't want to be free, they don't want to calm down, they don't want to shoot, and what's lacking is just the natural gas.

 

(6) How to break through the bondage of the original family and move toward a bigger life pattern

There is a book called "Structural Counterattack". On the cover of the book, there are several prominent characters:

Some people rely on talent to counterattack, some rely on identity to counterattack, if you have nothing, perhaps only rely on the pattern.

But my opinion is exactly the opposite. I believe that the so-called talent and identity are actually given by the family. This is an important factor that determines the pattern of a person.

Most people don’t even realize that when you were young, you had to live this life instead of life. You are this kind of temperament, not the kind of temperament. The reason why you think so, doesn’t think so. The only fundamental reason is that your native family.

Some of my friends are relatives of my hometown. The things they often share are similar:

"Shocked! The soy sauce at home is actually XXX"

"Friends circle is crazy! The secret XXX will be deleted soon"

"When a woman abandoned her husband's son, only because of XXX"

Occasionally take the baby to the playground or the surrounding scenic spots, you can spend a few days in the circle of friends.

I sometimes can't imagine that their children grow up in an environment like "shock", "madness", "top secret" and "gratefulness" all day long. What do you think and enjoy? ?

The other part is my colleagues, friends, leaders, and people who have a lot of work. They rarely send friends, and I can only pry into their lives from a small amount of content.

One of them will take care of the baby from time to time.

His child is still in elementary school, and has participated in CCTV's program recording many times, and he has come to power as a small assistant. In his spare time, his parents will take him abroad for a trip, send him to fencing classes, lecture classes, one-on-one English tutoring...

When he was in the third and fourth grades, what he saw and what he had learned was enough to make me scream.

After the same 00, they also grew up in a new era, but this huge difference in family background has created a deep gap for their future life.

If you want to break through the shackles of the original family, cross this huge gap and move toward a bigger life pattern. In my opinion, there are probably only three ways to go:

First, keep reading and learning.

 The premise of "there is a poem in the belly of the book" is that you read "poetry" rather than a stallion novel. When I wrote about Mao Zedong, I mentioned that an ordinary child from Xiangtan farmhouse had the ability to transcend the world’s knowledge and ambitions, first of all thanks to the tireless study and reading of young people.

What book is he reading? Research philosophy, such as "ethics"; research history, such as "the royal history of the past", research society, such as "Sheng Shi critical words"; research of current affairs, such as "Xinmin Congbao"...

In summary, the basic things of these books are two things: "knowledge" and "law."

Knowledge is a valuable experience accumulated by human civilization, and the law teaches people how to discover experience, sum up experience, and apply experience.

In the face of the precious wealth left by these human civilizations, every sentence you read will be the power to guide you to change your life.

The college entrance examination champion said it is good: knowledge does not necessarily change fate, but if you don't have knowledge, you must not change your destiny.

Unless you are good, don't change.

Second, constantly experience and climb.

When I was writing about how young Mao Zedong spent his holidays, in addition to reading, he also wrote two: "Walking a thousand miles, making thousands of friends."

Although an ordinary family has a limited vision for people's vision and thinking, there are more people who know and experience more stories, and ideas and even habits will change a lot.

However, whether it is communication or experience, don't just turn around in the same level and in the same circle. It is high in the place, and it seems that every effort is very hard, but there is no progress.

Life should be like climbing stairs, every layer of spiral rises, will face a new environment, meet new friends, and this will in turn help you continue to rise.

Third, continuous summary and reflection.

What one is most afraid of is that life has long been set, but it does not know.

You think that you complain all day because the work is not smooth, you think that the emotion is out of control just because you are in a bad mood that day, you think that love is away from you just because there is no money, you think you can't afford the house just because the house price is too high, you think The founder of Moby cashed in 1.5 billion just because of luck...

All self-righteousness is the seed of failure in life.

In fact, when you rethink each life and decompose and analyze every phenomenon that seems natural but difficult to understand, you can get a lot of new and valuable things - especially, When you analyze with your fellow friends.

Every time the summary and reflection, as long as it is deep enough, deep enough into the bone marrow, and even touch the soul and values, can be a rebirth.

Yes, I have spent so much space to explain that most of the pattern of a person is decided by the family, not to let everyone give up on themselves, but to let everyone have a clearer understanding and more determined fighting spirit in reflection. And continue to struggle harder.

The pattern of life is not static, but if you only consciously and soberly go out of the first step of change, it is possible to usher in the second step.